The public perception of masculinity has changed quite a bit throughout the decades. For some, a man is simply someone who provides for themselves and their family a life of comfort and relative safety. In fact, if we’re talking about manhood in a strictly colloquial sense, the word today may not even be completely centered around gender. While it’s unfair to associate adulthood with only one half of the entire species, it’s impossible to deny that when we tell each other to “man up,” we’re really referring to a person’s maturity, rather than their efficacy as a particularly gendered member of society.
So social sensitivities aside, what does it really mean to be a man in 2016? They used to say that the clothes make the man, but we all know that this attitude is an outdated and overly obtuse view of manhood. No, the modern man is defined not merely by his wardrobe, but instead by a full spectrum of who he is and what he stands for. Men can still be protectors, bread-earners, and more… but as women have taken on these roles in an increased capacity, men must exercise more than their charm or physical acuity in order to meet the expectations placed upon them.
The modern man must be wise enough to know what he does not know.
Being grown doesn’t mean muscling your way through situations outside of your depth or faking your knowledge in order to gain success. In the first quarter of the 21st century, being a man means knowing when to ask questions, and knowing what questions to ask. It’s okay to lack information in certain contexts. Even in the age of information, none of us can be expected to have all of the answers, all of the time.
In the truest sense, what we’re really talking about is humility. There’s no room for false bravado or casual arrogance in the life of a modern man.
The modern man is strong enough to hold up those around him.
We all understand the concept of strength in numbers. With a little bit of teamwork, each of us can accomplish what, separately, none of us can. In 2016, it’s more important for men to understand this than ever.
Hopefully this isn’t news to you, but in case you haven’t heard it, there’s no way for you to get it all done yourself. You might be the most intelligent, charming, athletic individual on the planet, but at the end of the day, sometimes other people are just better suited to take on certain tasks.
Make no mistake, in no way does this lessen your value to society! If anything, the areas in which you need help should simply serve to highlight that which you can accomplish on your own. Because for every task that you need help with, there is probably someone who could benefit from your particular skills and interests, looking for help as well. The modern man recognizes ability in others, and isn’t insecure about it.
The modern man is no longer Mr. Vain.
While we (thankfully) no longer live in a world where a man’s worth as a person can be evaluated by the length and quality of his tie, there’s certainly something special to be taken from the style values of the past. In the decades before the millennium, however, American culture seemed steeped in ego, and today we’ve moved away from that particular trend.
The styled moustaches and bold muttonchops of the 70’s have been replaced by well-manicured and carefully-groomed beards. The big, flowing hair of the 80’s has disappeared, leaving more moderate hairstyles like the undercut in its place. The brightlycolored and gaudy suits of 90’s are feeding moths in closets around the country, while men don soft pastels to compliment form-fitting and discrete professional attire instead.
A healthy amount of discretion mixes well with creativity in the mind of the modern man.
In short, and in the words of the notorious outlaw country singer Johnny Cash, the modern man knows how to “walk the line.” The Man in Black once epitomized what it meant to represent the characteristics of masculinity in American society, but with the song that eventually became the title of his famed biographical film, he may have predicted what it means to be a man today.
But walking that line isn’t always easy. That’s why, at least when it comes to the way you look, Crewners is here to help. We know that you want your beard to look its best, but that after months of dedicated non-shaving, you might be hesitant to try and style it for fear of making an irrevocable mistake. We know that you want your haircut to get you the job you’re interviewing for, but that you also want some subtle indication of what makes you unique. And most importantly, we know that with all you have on your plate, 30 minutes to relax can make all the difference.
So book an appointment with us online, and you’ll get that half hour. Set your appointment for whatever time works for your schedule, and before you know it, you’ll be kicking back in one of our luxurious barber chairs, getting a top-quality cut or shave from our dedicated professionals. We’ll see you soon in San Jose!